And on some have compassion, making a distinction; but others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire, hating even the garment defiled by the flesh. Jude 1:22-23
The Lord has been showing me about compassion, and when or how to have it. Because most people claim compassion to remain in their sin and the results of the sin. They do not seek the truth which will set them free.
Many times the Lord has shown me how he has built me up, but also reminds me of all the things I went through to get to this place with incredible peace and a vision you cannot explain or get without going through the valley of the shadow of death.
The whore church system teaches or promotes compassion for the man suffering because of his own stupidity in following his own way, and justifying his way as being good, but not getting or bearing good fruit. As if it can happen and he is the unlucky one. God NEVER has compassion on a man like this. The only man the Lord has compassion for is the one who is lost and looking for the “way” and when he shows up and speaks to you, that you follow the Lord. He never has compassion for those who choose to remain in their sinful ways and still cry about it.
The other part of this story is being grateful. The Lord loves a grateful heart, one that is grateful for the things they suffer as much as the things we consider good in life. In other words worldly blessings. The ones who see both the good and bad in the things or occurrences in their life, but know that it is all for their good and endure the hard things and enjoy the good parts of life.
The other night a friend of my wife and her husband came over and we had a very good talk about things of God. I had no idea they were so deep in the Lord. It was good to have a conversation like this. This couple is getting married soon, and he is my age when Cinthya and I married and she is around Cinthya’s age at the time. They have struggled at times and broke up at one time.
But the point of the story is Cinthya and I told them more of our story over the 15 years we have been together, the highs and lows and how when we got married I had it in my mind it would all be good, no problems to speak of. Because of two reasons, first one was I told God you know what I need, if to be single so be it. If a wife, so be it and you bring the right one for me. God told me I would be married within a year, and it happened with Cinthya. We also were on a similar path, one of wanting to be right with God so again I assumed we would not endure problems.
But was I wrong, we endured many problems and still do at times. But it was in and through those problems that we both have grown and become better and stronger in Yashua. I would learn and be taught something from God and then it brought division because it was new, but only for me. Then Cinthya would eventually come to know and understand the same thing and we grew stronger again.
Our life together is like this, many test where God expects something of one of us but not the other, and then the issues come. Many times I had to make a choice to honor God and do his will, or decide to make our marriage more secure by doing Cinthya’s will instead. Every time I choose the Lords will and made it clear to her that I must do it or it will be bad for us both. It always brought division at first, but good fruit in the future. It is like that with God, you have to go against your human nature and step out in confidence in God or in faith that what he expects you to do is going to be good for you when the world and your flesh is screaming “don’t do it!’
So back to the grateful attitude, I am extremely grateful for my wife. There are things about her that no other woman can compete with her on. She is amazingly beautiful with an amazing body even at almost 50 years old. She is amazing in the kitchen, we both know the importance of healthy eating, and she not only does the food healthy, but with amazing flavor. Today we had lasagna, and it was all done by hand. She made the pasta from scratch, the sauce from scratch, we used good quality beef… It is not only healthy in this world of trash fast food from a can. But you can appreciate the flavor of the quality. Also knowing this is why we do not look as old as we are getting and remain healthy.
In contrast the world wants us to have compassion on it when they are fat, unhealthy and full of skin problems like zits. They want us to feel sorry for them going through their divorce when they are always getting drunk and abusive and cheating… Or maybe eve something more simple like being co dependent and doing things the way they think it should be which is the opposite of how God expects.
Because “There is a way that seems right to a man, But its end is the way of death.” Proverbs 14:12 This is the problem, we think we are doing things in a good way and pleasing to God, when we are not and it leads to death and many problems. We even have preconceived ideas of how God should be or how our life will go (like I did when Cinthya and I got married) and it does not play out like that. What most people do is simply get divorced and move on over and over. And sometimes it might be the will of God to get divorced, because in my first marriage the Lord made it clear he did NOT bring us together, he actually sent many people telling us to not get married but I did it anyways and that she would never change and repent and my life with her would always be hell. And I would never grow into who I was supposed to be.
How do you have compassion on yourself or seek compassion after having the truth told to you this bluntly? The Lord had compassion on those who were lost and seeking a good Shepard, not the ones who wander off all by themselves. And that was me, |I was seeking to do the Lords will and come to his truth. True grace is for them who are seeking a good Shepard and want to follow him but mess up from time to time as they are growing in the Spirit. There is no grace for those who keep doing things their own way and claim salvation by a sinner’s prayer. Or confession or whatever nonsense you hear preached by a man teacher. There is no compassion from God for those who choose to remain in their sinful ways of living. His compassion comes when we choose to turn from our sinful life and choose him and his way instead. The ones seeking for righteousness. He had compassion on my life because of this. Not because I went to church, or because of a prayer or any other man made nonsense. But because I was looking for righteousness.
So back to the grateful spirit to tie this in. You really cannot be grateful when the suffering comes if you do not understand why it is coming. When you live in the flesh and sow to the flesh, you cannot be grateful when the problems come. Because it will come. Most focus on the suffering and have a poor little old me attitude. But those who suffer at the hands of the almighty are grateful of the suffering because it produces in them good fruit. Your focus changes from the suffering to the good things you will achieve, knowing the suffering will eventually produce good fruit.
I see my life like this, everything I have suffered has turned into good for me, including the things my wife and I have had to deal with. Because I can tell you that not only dealing with a woman (or a woman with a man) and the differences in the two. But also dealing with cultural differences. Puts a lot of stress on a relationship. But then that stress is what grew me, it showed me just how selfish and egotistical and hard hearted we as US citizens are. And how lazy and codependent the Mexicans are. Of course I am speaking as a whole because it does not apply to everyone. I have learned a lot from living here in Mexico being married to a Mexican woman, and she has learned a lot from me. But keep in mind it is the Lord doing the teaching using each other to teach us how to be in the middle. There is good and bad in both cultures. We have learned to get rid of the bad and cling to the good in each. And continue to learn. And to be grateful for the things we suffer which teach us this important lesson with each other. With no compassion for sin and or dysfunction in our lives. The sin and dysfunction we use to live in.