The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice, And he who begets a wise child will delight in him. Proverbs 23:24
Interesting the things God is showing me today on fathers day. Because I have two stories to tell in my life. The one where I have three daughters who do not speak with me and have not for 20 years. The few times there was any contact with them it ended quickly because they seem to expect me to bow down to their way. The last attempt went well for a little while, but once her mother found out it stopped just like that. I have written about it before so nothing new if you ever read what I write from what God is revealing.
The different message this time is simple this. I also have 3 kids from a second marriage, or which 2 are adopted. Plus another son older whom I helped raise since he was 9 and now 24. We have one son, a miracle son between us. Something I also have written about. But the interesting thing is what God is showing me because of what one of my daughters wrote to me. She wrote:
You have taught me to value what I have and thanks to you I have a family, and if you had not adopted me I would not have the life I have. I love you very much with my life. You are the best father of the world.
It is the same with God, most of us were born into a religion and have some form of understanding of God. Yet most of us are like my older daughters and want nothing to do with God. God shows me over and over who he is and why the people ignore and hide themselves from his light. Because the light is tough, it shows you who you are and who we are no matter how good of a person you think you are, is not good at all. It takes the light to show you. Which as mentioned many times is the judgment, the light comes in and gives judgment on you, if you repent of the judgment from the light and seek the best way in the truth of God to live your life, he will show it to you and set you free from sin. You will live a righteous life in him.
The problem comes when we try to please our kids, wives, husbands, father or mother and go against the light and wisdom of God and what he shows us. We think we are doing good by giving into the ways of the kids, giving them what they want instead of what they need. And if you do you are guilty of not only not following the light, but teaching your kids the same thing, their sins are upon you as well.
For a few days now the Lord has been showing me about being grateful for what we have and not complaining. In everything in this life there is good and bad, nothing is ever perfect. So the question is do you accept the bad parts knowing it is the will of God? That he has something he is teaching you through them so you are grateful for them? And you look at everything and are extremely grateful for the good parts of life? Or the opposite where you let the bad things rule over the good and you complain and or ignore the truth and the message and teaching of God?
My three kids we have now really love me a lot. They not only tell me but show me in many ways. Now sometimes they get mad or have their moods, but I can tell they are very grateful for their life and how we live. The way they say I love you, and the way they hug me, and want to play with me and be around me (my wife also, not just me). And they love me for who I am in Yashua, in his truth and way. Not because I mellowed in my old age and give them everything they want. If anything I much more deep in Yashua than I ever was when with my older daughters, so they would really not like me if they knew me now.
Which is the point, my younger adopted girls show me the love (respect) that they should. My older daughters hate me because of who I am and what I stand for. They do not want righteousness, they want everything their way. And the interesting thing is I tried to do it their way (which is really their moms way) and it did not work anyways. Which is another teaching, this is why God is the way and he does not veer from that way. Unlike me, he knows if he gives into your way (which is unrighteousness) the end result is a spoiled person who does not know truth and righteousness. Your life will never turn out good by demanding your own way, it only makes you more demanding as you get what you want and it never fills you up like the Spirit will when you do it Gods way.
Yes your older daughters might say they love you (probably not in my case until their mom dies). But they are not showing love. This lack of love cost them any form of peace they could ever come to in this life, and they will never obtain salvation. When you give in and say things to please another person or give them what they want when it is not right. You are allowing them to remain in the sin and will never have neither. Never love and peace and never salvation.
Maybe they never come to appreciate the truth and righteous way of living and still hate you and God. But at least there is a chance, where if you give in there is not chance. And if you give in and try to please them, it is a slippery slope downhill of always trying to please them to maintain a relationship based on lies and malice. Not on love!
This is why Yashua taught “if you love your mother, father, sons daughters… more than me you are not worthy of me. He demands his way in front of anyone’s way. Because he is God and knows what is the best WAY to live, and we do not. Which goes back to why he is the way, and why our ways are evil.
Salvation comes in no other way (name) except the Son. We must hear and obey and not give into the whims of the lost people, but instead call the lost people to repentance and righteousness. It is extremely hard because the people do not like it and will say many things to you, most evil. My dad even accused me of having a demon one time. The people of the world do not understand the things of God, I know this first hand because I used to be one of them, never knew what I come to know since meeting the Lord and then obeying him into all righteousness. Now it is a daily fight to remain in that righteousness, and sometimes I slip and fall short, but not often anymore. The advisory is tough and good, been practicing for 1,000s of years. But the power of God is stronger and if we remain in him as he is in the Father, we will overcome and come to an understanding of his truth.
The world wants to hear what it wants to hear, not truth. The men of God want to hear truth from the son and then follow it. Because to us it is not about pleasing people, it is about pleasing God and bring people to God. Because in God we are more than conquerors.
If you really love others, you will want what is best for them. I know my wife and sister both want what is best for my older daughters, but what they do not get is so do I even more than them, but I know telling them what they want to hear instead of the truth will not work and will not be in their best interest. Nor will it be good for me and my younger kids. You let dysfunction into your life because you love your relationship with someone more than the truth of God, your sin and lack of peace remain.
Make wise choices, and the only wise one is in Yashua.
